I have been single for almost 19 years now – my whole life – and aside from the occasional flirting, hooking up and “talking” to someone (that stage pisses me off), I can admit that throughout this love drought I’ve had my fair share of days where I wish I wasn’t single. It’s normal, but being single isn’t something you should ever be sad about. The single life is a life you’ll one day forget all about if you plan to get married one day. To me, being single is a period of time that’s meant to understand and find yourself. I’m still on this quest to understand exactly who I am, and I really believe that it’s the reason why I’m single.
Anyways, I try staying positive as a single girl and it’s extremely easy to be. No matter if you’ve went through a horrible break-up or you’re just so tired of being single – here’s some ways to be happy while single.
Be with your girls. As a single girl, the only people who deserve your undivided attention when you wanna give it to someone are your friends. They have your back and you have theirs. Spend more time with them while doing what makes you happy and having fun.
Learn to have fun by yourself. Single means “only one.” Meaning you are the only one you need to be worrying about. Having friends is great, but you are your own best friend first right?! Here’s some things to try alone if you haven’t: go for walks, ride the train, go to a restaurant, go to a museum, sit in a park and go shopping. All of these are surprisingly fun alone!
Hang out with family. These are the people who will always be there no matter what. Get closer to that cousin you used to play with when you were kids, be more open with parents or siblings, etcetera etcetera. This can be essential in finding yourself: they’ve known you since you were born.
Trying new things. Whether it’s a new hobby or daring to skydive, do something that you’ve never done. Get out of your comfort zone!
Don’t take any one guy serious until you know he’s serious. Now that you’ve been such an independent woman (Destiny’s Child must be jealous), DON’T fall for the first guy to come around unless you know he’s serious and you hear it from his mouth. Nowadays, relationships are just forever up in the air. “What are we?” is too frequently asked these days, and if you have to ask this question you can forget it. Have fun and meet a bunch of people, but don’t give someone something they aren’t giving you.
It doesn’t take much to be happy, and some people are in better places than others. But every human on the planet deserves to be happy and loved, and you don’t need anyone else to make you happy and feel loved than yourself. Being single is the perfect opportunity to focus on you!
What are your favorite things to do with your friends or yourself?